The other day I was driving behind a popular fast food restaurant that has a drive up window. As I was following a large older model car past the vehicles in line the woman driving the car in front of me came to an abrupt stop.
Have you ever driven through Manhattan, more specifically Chinatown, then through the Holland Tunnel and into New Jersey? It is an experience that you won’t forget. One of the most notable things that stands out for me is the honking of horns. It happens more often than not, which is understandable, as vehicles and people are in close proximity to each other. While driving in New York City I will not hesitate to use my horn if necessary. But, what I also realize is how little I hear a car horn, or use mine, outside of that environment.
As the woman in the car continued to sit it occurred to me that maybe she was not aware of traffic building behind her, so I did what I seldom do in the south. I beeped my horn, and not a long angry beep, but a quick tap. Still no movement and we continued to sit, so I did one more beep. I then decided a different approach was necessary. I left my car and went up to the driver’s window.
I stood for a moment without any acknowledgement and then taped on the window. Let me say something here to alleviate any misconceptions you have naturally assumed because I described the car as an older model. The woman behind the wheel was probably 10 years younger than me. What was immediately obvious was that she was paralyzed by the fear of hitting the other cars. From where she sat she was convinced that pulling through was an impossibility. When I offered my assistance she was reluctant to take it, but she did finally agree and was able to drive safely through.
Sometimes we are put in situations where we need to do more than hint. There does come a time when the very best thing we can do is to take action. Our tendency may be to ignore what is going on, but there will be occasions when you will see what another person appears to be blind to, and it may require a more direct approach. The action that you take will hopefully lead to a positive reaction from the individual, but truthfully it is not a guarantee.
As women who are motivated for good, and to do good, we should expect to see a result that is good. We do know that our hearts are in sync with the heart of God which is always good! Therefore, what may begin with a hint will then be followed through with grace and always love.
James 3:17-18 CSB But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peace-loving, gentle, compliant, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without pretense. And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who cultivate peace.